
So we went on a vacation about a year ago………great restaurants…….great food……it was fabulous. And I gained 10 pounds. My doctor told me I needed to lose the weight……….big surprise. For a year, I tried to shed those 10 pounds…….no luck.
Weight loss, in theory, is incredibly simple……..in practice……not so much.
The hard truth of weight loss is this:
If you stop eating…….you will lose weight. This is absolutely true and it is non-negotiable.
The practical reality is that we don’t stop eating. For a year, I didn’t stop eating……..and I wondered why I didn’t lose the 10 pounds.
Why?
Because I lied………to myself. Because behind every failed diet is a failure to stop eating. And this failure is based on lies that we tell ourselves.
I ate a simple breakfast, toast and coffee. I had a light lunch, a bowl of soup. I had a regular dinner…….with a second helping. And I snacked a little in the evening…..cheese (1/4 pound)…….and a little summer sausage (1/4 pound)…….and, of course, you have to have a sleeve of crackers to go with it.
I told myself that the second helping at dinner wasn’t important. I told myself that I deserved the snack because I had been so good at breakfast and lunch. These were lies…….the worst kind of lies…….lies that I told myself.
If you have ever tried to lose weight…..and failed……you are guilty of lying too. Don’t feel bad……you are in good company. Besides that, there is a multibillion dollar industry selling the lie.
The simple truth is……that we lie to ourselves……..all day……every day.
That rolling stop when there is no other car in sight.
Driving 75 in a 65mph zone.
Using the handicapped parking spot…….when you are not handicapped……for just 5 minutes.
The lies?
“This really isn’t important.”
“That rule is stupid.”
“It really doesn’t hurt anyone.”
“It’s no big deal.”
“I can handle it.”
BTW this is just a taste of one day’s worth of lies that I told myself…….yesterday.
This post, it turns out, isn’t about dieting at all…….you probably guessed. It is about lying…….to ourselves.
When you do something wrong and tell yourself, “It’s OK”. You are actually doing 2 things wrong……..the act itself…….and the lie that you tell yourself to justify the act. It may very well be that the act itself really isn’t a big problem……..but the lie IS a big problem.
Lying to yourself is a big problem because the little lie that you tell yourself today makes it easier to tell the next little lie……and the one after that. Until, one day you find yourself telling yourself a lie that isn’t so little. Then you tell the big lies……the lies that can destroy you.
My drinking isn’t a problem….I can handle it.
Cigarettes don’t kill that many people.
Lying to my parents is OK……it’s none of their business anyway.
Then one day you find yourself with your girlfriend sitting in the waiting room of the abortion clinic…….and you say, “this is for the best.”
And you wonder….”how did I ever get to this point?”
You may still commit the act………but you owe yourself the truth………….you owe it to yourself……..to say to yourself………”this is wrong.”
Our society does not allow us to tell the other guy that his behavior is wrong. Even worse……….we are losing the gift of telling ourselves that our own behaviour is wrong.
So…..today……. find a time when you are getting ready to do something that just isn’t quite right. And tell yourself…..”this is wrong”. Even if you still do it…….you will have taken a small step toward honesty…….honesty with the most important person you will deal with today……. yourself.
There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death.
Solomom, ESV
For the time is coming when people will not endure sound teaching, but having itching ears they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own passions, and will turn away from listening to the truth
Paul, ESV